Mama, being the oldest of four sisters would always have a “god” mother role in our family. She was a stastics major in university, and has always been good with numbers. Being a housewife, she would take us and pick us up from school every day for eighteen years,in addition to taking care of the house,making sure lunch was ready, and helping us with our home work. She would also drop us off and pick us up from our friends on the weekend. Superman wouldve been proud of her. . The things she did for us, we only realized and appreciated it when we had our own kids.
She was never a ‘socialite’ but had a strong relationship with a handful of people, and this was mainly due to the fact she lived abroad from marriage until 1988. During the invasion, my father was stuck in kuwait for over two weeks. We were in cairo with mama, and didnt have any form of communication with him, she still managed to enrol us into a top school and made sure our education wasnt halted.
Mama was and still is a very determined and strong willed person. Thats definately a trait i hope i get from her.
6 years ago I met this lady, and for the first few weeks, I thought she hated me and doesn’t want to make the effort to socialize with me. I was upset and thought I shouldn’t keep trying. I mentioned that to her elder son (my fiancé at that time), and he insisted that she likes me and that they have noticed the change in her attitude/interests lately. Her son told me all those remarkable stories about his mom and the amazing traits he has gotten from her, I sadly didn’t believe him, and thought that’s the normal feel any one would have towards his mother.
Only few months later, did I notice that I met an outstanding women/mother, a women with strong well, a women with an immense loving heart and a women that would do anything for other peoples happiness, but unfortunately PSP distracted my views during the previous few months. PSP was lucky enough to meet this energetic lady before me, and I still live with the guilt of not believing her son and his exquisite stories on his mother’s glorious roles in their lives.
Only now, that I have spent 6 years with her in the same house, and saw the effect of PSP on her on a daily basis, and the massive change in her total life style and attitude, did I know that this women is much stronger than any progressive disease and is willing to fight it to continue living with her loved ones; her husband, kids, grandchildren and family.
Im sure you’re not the only person who has felt the same, and got the same first impression about mama. A major non-physical side effect of PSP, is that they dont show any emotions, even if they feel them. But as you said, after living with mama, you get to realize how caring she is. . Despite, the difficulty shes going through, she always makes the effort to remember everyones bday, and goes out of her way to get them a cologne/perfume and cake (mamas standard, gift). Its those things that she does that makes me realize that she doesnt still have feelings….even if she cant show them.